This morning as I woke up and put my plan in place to get some work done and visit my son in the hospital, I couldn’t help but feel sad. Since I moved to NC I have often be proud of the state, but last night was not one of them. I will never understand why we had to go over and beyond what was already illegal. Gay marriage was already illegal according to the state constitution. Why did we have to go over and beyond that. Is there that much hatred towards our gay brothers and sisters, that we had to go so far to discriminate against them? Is the hatred so much that we needed to harm straight couples who don’t believe in marriage, or weaken protections for victims of domestic violence who aren’t married, or potentially harm children of unmarried couples.
That is what makes this so hard for me. The state didn’t just further prevent gay marriage, instead it stripped the rights of tens of hundreds of people and children in the state. I can’t imagine what it must feel like for any of those impacted to wake up this morning and know that over 1 million people in their home state voted against them and their rights. How do we explain to our children that hatred won out? How can we expect our future generations to not be driven by hate, if we can’t lead by example. North Carolina had another chance to lead the south by example, only this time we failed. I hope every couple gay and straight, and their children will take solace in the fact that over 800,000 people stood with them, and that they do have support here. I hope that those same couples who live in other states, who once considered moving here, will not be discouraged and change their minds, and realize that there are people here who will stand and fight with them. I hope that the coalition of people who stood together to fight this hateful amendment will continue to work together to keep the fight going, and show those impacted that we love and support them and will stand with them to the end.
The quote that I live my life by forbids me from believing that hate will win out in the end.
“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.