I know it has been a long while since I wrote a post. My last post gave some insight to what is going on in my life that has kept me from blogging. However, as I sit here this morning trying to mentally prepare for my son to have his sixth surgery in under six months, I believe this is an issue that I must write about.
While I know that this amendment is about more than gay marriage, despite what supporters want you to think. That is what I want to focus on. I can’t bring myself to believe that supporters of this amendment really want to prevent children from healthcare, or protect people from domestic violence, or discriminate against their straight brothers and sisters who believe in relationships not defined by marriage. Instead, this amendment is rooted in hatred of people who love differently from what society deems as normal.
I was raised in what most Christians would say was a good Christian home. My parents were loving parents who were fundamental Baptists and took the King James Version as the only true Bible. The churches we attended were always very conservative in their politics and anything that strayed from the teachings of the Bible were not looked at favorably. One result of that was being raised in a very homophobic environment. Until I went to college, I never had any real interactions with the gay community. My only view on the situation was that they were sinners destined for hell unless they changed their immoral lifestyles.
It wasn’t until college, when I made friends with people who were not anti-gay, and friends with people who were gay, that my view began to change. I started to see that they were no different from me other than who they chose to love. The big lesson I learned though, was that I had no reason to hate them, and that who they loved had no impact on who I wanted to love. My love for my girlfriend was in no way diminished by their love. One friend in particular, Jason Willis, was very passionate with his boyfriend at the time, and that passion was no different from the passion I wanted in my relationship. Other than the fact the he was with a man and I wanted to be with a woman, we were no different. Those nights of hanging with him and his significant other and our mutual friend Terica West changed my perspective on the whole situation.
Fast forward to today. I am married with three children and in no way feel threatened by gay marriage. Even if this amendment was only about gay marriage (which it isn’t), I would still oppose it. My marriage is in no way threatened by gay marriage, I don’t believe the sanctity of my marriage changes one bit.
Even though I do not attend church on a regular basis, I still am a Christian. I don’t understand how my other Christian brothers and sisters who speak about loving their neighbor as themselves, or who talk about the love Jesus showed for everyone, could support this. I will not believe for one second that Jesus’ message of love included stripping the rights of people we are supposed to love. How can people see the love of Christ in us when we want to take away their rights and attack them for who they love. I don’t think we can. And I don’t think one can preach about the love of Christ, while demonstrating hate at the same time.
This is simply about love versus hate. I for one stand for love and hope that others including my fellow Christians will stand for love. If we truly want to carry out the love of Jesus, we can’t vote for hate.